In General, It Takes Two to Tango

Abandoned newborn girl found in New York City


“That is very cruel,” Audra Adams, a resident at the building project for the last 40 years, told the AP. “You couldn’t knock on somebody’s door or take the baby to a hospital or something? This was your only recourse? I hope they find her.”




Missouri Republican: ‘Legitimate rape’ rarely causes pregnancy

“First of all, from what I understand from doctors, [pregnancy from rape] is really rare. If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down,” Akin said.
Regarding his opinion on whether to allow for an abortion in such instances, Akin added: “But let’s assume that maybe that didn’t work or something. 

Notice a pattern in the above news snippets?  Look at the last sentence of the first one: “I hope they find her.”  Now consider Akin’s remark, “…the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.”
Can we talk about why our instinct is to hold women responsible for all aspects of reproduction and childbearing?  Can we acknowledge that the first reaction of Ms. Adams was to vilify the mother? Can we point out that Akin’s last resort (!!!) is to punish the rapist? That really, it was an afterthought if the female body fails to prevent a pregnancy from happening during a LEGITIMATE RAPE???  
Can we talk about the fact that until women are valued just as much as men in our society that this type of knee-jerk reaction will continue to occur?  That until men are held responsible for their actions with regard to their own sexual behavior women will always bear the brunt of contraceptive, pregnancy, infertility, childbearing and child-rearing activities? Including, but not limited to resource management, logistics, finances and emotions?  Because unless we’re talking about artificial insemination, I believe it still takes two to tango.
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  1. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    Legitimate rape ?? Really ?? how can these two words even fit next to each other … this is a brutal insult to ANY women or men who have been sexually abused and beyond scary …

    I don't think that there us any word that he can say to repare this …

    Worse than his words … Trying to find something …

    Poor little Chinese girl, poor Mom. This is sad, really sad. I did not know this story.

    Unless the Mom of a child conceived through rape goes to years of therapy, and even so … This poor baby is a very strong candidate for attachment disorders at best … And abuse at worst … Is this fair to this child ?? Is this fair to the Mom who will see the rapist eyes and face in her child …

    Love and peace to these poor Moms and poor babies …

    – Isabelle

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  2. Dee
    Dee says:

    Dear Kari, yes! shout it loud and clear! a clarion call that says enough is enough is enough already.

    And … Akin is from Missouri–the state where I sit writing this accolade to you. Peace.

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