Hi, I’m Kari.
I’m an author, speaker, and the founder of the SELF Project. My work explores the nuances of relationship by exploring barriers to true connection and the qualities that really strengthen connection. I am all about diving deep and having difficult conversations. I am the author of three books: Truth Has a Different Shape – a memoir about growing up in the ’70s and ’80s as a caretaker-type in a family torn by divorce and the loss of a child and how that shaped my own parenting, and ultimately my caregiving for my parents in their twilight years; One Teenager at a Time: Developing Self-Awareness and Critical Thinking in Adolescents; and most recently, Happy, Healthy Teens: Why Focusing on Relationships Works. I teach workshops on grief and rage and am launching a podcast called It’s Relatable on MindBodySpirit FM in August of 2022.
Truth Has a Different Shape
Sandwiched between raising their own children and taking on the responsibilities of their aging boomer parents, GenX mothers are often faced with a seemingly impossible emotional juggling act. In a similar vein to Ada Calhoun’s Why We Can’t Sleep: Women’s New Midlife Crisis, Kari O’Driscoll takes a deeply personal, yet often little-explored journey, common to so many GenX women. In her memoir, Truth Has a Different Shape she faces the challenges of being groomed as a caretaker, growing up in the post-first-wave-feminist 70s and 80s, in a family where her need for love is often unmet, and how that shifts her own identity as woman, wife, mother, and child.
In three acts, O’Driscoll excavates her girlhood, young adulthood, and finally motherhood to ultimately come to terms with how her attempts to do it all and be it all for everyone threaten everything she’s ever wanted. In this exploration of how our parents affect us as girls, women, and mothers, as part of the forgotten generation, she comes full circle to heal herself and the most difficult relationships of her life. For any woman who’s ever felt like the one who must hold everything together until she’s about to fall apart, Kari offers a firsthand look at her own path from peacekeeper to self-healer.