Bullying is in the news everywhere these days. I see friends on Facebook posting notifications about meetings at schools. Last week at Eve’s school, they held a Community Meeting to talk about the rash of recent suicides by teens who suffered at the hands of their peers. Do an Internet search of blog posts on bullying and the results will overwhelm you.
The thing is, bullying is not a new phenomenon. It has evolved with our culture and stretched its skinny fingers into cyberspace where it is easier to hide, but it isn’t new. Nor does it stop when we leave school.
Driving home from dropping Eve and Lola at school this morning, I was listening to NPR. Steve Inskeep was talking to Tina Brown of “The Daily Beast” and she was recommending her favorite stories to listeners. One that struck me was this article in the NY Times about women in Afghanistan setting themselves on fire to escape abusive marriages. Such instances are not isolated. Women all over the world resort to desperate acts with the tools they have available when they are faced with a lack of options. This is not any different from a gay teen committing suicide in order to escape ridicule by his or her peers.
-Men who talk louder (but not smarter)to make their point.
-PTA people who can't take no for an answer!
All I've got right this minute. LOL.
You do not want to get me started on how culturally acceptable it is to call people stupid, dumb, idiots, morons, etc.
Those who will resort to any means to get their way. The end justifies (to them) the means.
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I can think of a lot. Still, on my end, the fact that people are already doing something about it is already a step in the right direction. I'm sure everyone's efforts will make a huge difference.
Oh, yes, the first that springs to mind occurred a few weeks ago. The leader of a committee on which I serve sent an email chiding our hardworking members, some of whom work full time for our non-profit org FOR FREE, for not delivering enough on initiatives he had pushed to the fore without any discussion from the rest of us. He used strong language and I called him out for bullying deeply committed people. He replied that he was employing tough love as a tactic to wring even more work from us. Not surprisingly, the following week, only two people showed up for the meeting. Since then, we've been a committee of three.
Bullying has no more place in the adult world than in a child's world.
You are spot on, once again, that the way to change is to become aware and change ourselves first. Thank you for posting this.